When any guy or girl who is nowhere near narrow minded is asked about their ultimate sexual fantasy, nothing can be more kinkier than having a threesome with a three way partner as well as your long term partner. However, some so-called relationship experts argue that having a threesome can totally wreck your current relationship in a obnoxious way. But, is that true? For a tremendous amount of swingers who are looking for threesome but can't make a final decision, the question that I just mentioned above is most likely the one and the only reason that always lingers in their mind. So do you have to make a choice between leading a monogamist lifestyle without any chance of mingling with anyone else, or getting out of your comfort zone, however, taking the risk to get your relationship sabotaged? Let's take a look at what the relationship counselor, Harvard Lee, who has been working on the largest couples dating apps, tinder for threesomes as well as tinder for couples for more than 17 years, thinks about the controversial topic.
It is universally acknowledged that having a threesome is hot and sexy, but when you are in a long term and serious relationship, it can be quite different. Some say that having a threesome or even looking for a three way partner will do nothing good to your relationship, but that’s not true if you are prepared. So what kind of preparations should you be ready for? First of all, talk about your expectations from a threesome with your partner! Reassure him or her that having a threesome is not just about having sex, it is also about bringing fire and tension to your relationship. Moreover, talk about your fantasies, so your partner will be prepared. Whether you are into kinky dating, bisexual dating, polyamorous dating, wife sharing or even wife threesome, don't be ashamed to confess to your loved ones. Instead of judge you, they might even appreciate your honesty, openness as well as truthfulness.
After talking it through with your partner, also come up with a plan B, during which, make your partner to feel that he or she is a part of the plan instead of some random friend with benefit to fulfill your sexual fantasies. Plan B means a back up plan which will help you to solve the potential problems, if there is any. It is of vital importance to come up with solutions which are most likely to happen in a three way relationship: jealousy between three involved parties, conflicts between each parties as well as, the most unacceptable one: adultery. There is no definite solution to each question, since the personal situation varies from person to person.
Last but certainly not least, make sure that both you and your partner feel safe what is going to happen next. If someone is feeling insecure about having a threesome, neither the threesome is not going to be fun, nor does the relationship.